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A Mom Again, Naturally…

Yesterday, a mom of one of Karen’s friends said, “Well, when I was a kid, I took off on my bike and was gone all day.  I just decided that it was time to start letting [my daughter] go on her own.  I mean, I’m sending her with my cell phone and having her check in.  I mean, c’mon, we didn’t even have cell phones back then!”

This mom was surprised that I wasn’t comfortable with Karen riding her bike alone for a mile to her friends’ house.  Karen is eleven.  If she weren’t going alone, I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but since she was…no way.

Of course, as I’ve mentioned before, at 43, peer pressure still exists.  You’d think it would go away when you became an adult.  Or at least, you hoped it would.  But, no.  I was standing there, on the phone getting pressure from this mom to let my daughter ride alone.  I explained that I didn’t want her riding up there alone and the mom said, “Oh, I thought you lived near “Lucy” and “Ethel.””  I said, “Yep.  We do.  But, that is just too far for Karen to go on her own.  I’m just not comfortable with it.”  “Oh.”  Then I let the uncomfortable silence sit there.

The mom then agreed that I could come and pick her daughter up and take the girls to Planet Smoothie.  Which is what I offered in the first place. 

Do I wish this was an era where I could say, “See ya!” to my kids and have them home by dark?  Sure do!  Those were great times.  Did horrible things happen to kids back then?  Sure did, we just didn’t know about them.  But, now we do.  We hear about them all the time.  And, knowing a registered sex offender (involving children) lives between our house and Karen’s friend’s house made the decision even easier.  But, even if that wasn’t true, I still wouldn’t have let her go.  It just seemed so far away.

I believe in safety in numbers.  And, Karen and her two friends used to walk to and from school every day last year.  But, during that time of day, there were lots of other kids and parents walking to and from school as well.  So, it’s not that we live in a scary area, or that I want my children to be afraid to go anywhere.  But, I’m not going to send them out to play in traffic, either.

I just felt the need to write this down.  I don’t want to be a helicopter mom.  I want to let my kids grow up.  But, they both still have plenty of time for that.  Right?  Hang on, I’ve gotta go cut the crusts of their PB&Js.


Last Friday, I won 2 tickets to the Bruce Springsteen concert on Sunday night.  My kids and I watch Fox 2 in the morning every morning.  Most days they have a Song of the Day contest.  All you have to do is go online and enter your email address.  No trivia required.  I enter once in awhile.  I won a gift certificate to a German restaurant back in the summer.  I thought, “What the heck?  Never heard of it, but, hey, it’s $50.”  It was pretty good, actually.  Apparently, the Germans like their gravy.

But, this time, I was very excited.  I thought Tom would be excited if I won.  We never go to concerts.  It’s cheaper to buy the cds, you know?

I got home from having lunch with my friend Debbie, and Tom said, “You got some good news on the answering machine.”  I listened and found out I had won the tickets!  I jumped up and down and started yelling, “I won!  We’re going to Bruce Springsteen!  Woo Hoo!  I can’t believe it!”  I repeated this several times.  Only then did I look at Tom to see his reaction.  A frozen smile.  WHAT?!?!?  I reminded him of what had just happened FREE TICKETS TO BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN! 

“I don’t like concerts.”  Huh?  I said, “Well, I know we never go, but that’s because they are expensive.  This is FREE!”  “Well, that is ONE reason I don’t like them, but I really just don’t like them.  I don’t know when to stand up or when to sit down.  I mean, can’t you just sit down the whole time?”  Ugh.

After much discussion, he encouraged me to take someone else.  I called my friend Debbie and SHE gave me the reaction I was looking for.  She was in the lobby at school, and she was screaming.  “Are you KIDDING me?  Oh my gosh!  Wow!  I’m so excited!!!”  And, then she sent me an email telling me how excited she was and that she was sorry she couldn’t act as excited as she really was.  That she had to hold back, due to the fact she was in the school.  LOVE IT!

So, now two very excited people will be attending the concert on Sunday.  We were BORN TO RUN!!!!!

Dr. Mom

Karen is home sick again today.  With “flu-like symptoms.”  No, I don’t know if it is swine flu.  Good news is she is feeling much better today.

I found this on the desktop of my laptop.

Note from Karen

Note from Karen











I know I always loved when my mom took care of me.  I’m glad she taught me well.  It’s so nice to be appreciated!

Still Visiting…

As my previous post stated, I’m still having transition issues.  I’ve decided to take Xanax a few times a day even if I don’t think I need it.  Today that seems to have paid off.  This week has been rough.

So far, I haven’t cried today.  That’s huge for this week.  My stomach is only slightly knotted up.  That’s huge.  Tomorrow I don’t have to get up early.  HUGE!

So, we’ll see what the weekend brings.  This last weekend was Tom’s brother’s wedding and it was fabulous!  The wedding itself was fantastic!  And, I worked really hard on “going with the flow.”  I guess it took more of a toll on me than I thought.    Who knew being easy-going would be so hard?

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