Okay, folks, if you don’t already have one of these, you should make one.
Everyone needs a FEEL GOOD FILE. I don’t know where I heard of such a thing, but I made one for myself years ago. It started out as a file folder for things that made me smile. Articles, cartoons, pictures, etc. Anything that might serve as a “pick me up” when I was down.
Then, I started adding notes people had written me. Thanking me for various things, mentioning a positive quality that I had, etc. Again, just things that would make me remember that I’m not a loser, even when there are times that I felt like one.
The folder became pretty full, and I had to move the items to an expandable pocket. That’s full now too. I’m not bragging. Please don’t take it that way. I’m just letting you know how great this kind of thing can make you feel. And, as some of you know, I’ve been threw a few wacko things in my life, so people are kind enough to write me during those times.
Yesterday, I was feeling a little low, so I got out the file. I found several notes from a dear friend. She’s great at mailing notes via snail mail. I can print off nice emails, but it’s even easier to file away a card. And, the number of Winnie the Pooh cards I’ve received make me smile just looking at them!
I had lunch with my note-writing friend today. I told her that I had read several of the notes she’d written. She asked if the Feel Good File worked. I said, “Well, I did have to stop after awhile. It made me a little…sad.” She laughed. I said, “Well, not really sad, more like choked up.” That, she understood.
The articles and cartoons I had saved, just made me laugh. Just like they were supposed to do. In fact, I had one that offered snappy comebacks worthy of a TV sitcom mom. I’m trying to work those in when I can. My favorite: After your child says, “I’ll never speak to you again!” Your response could be: “That’s too bad. I was hoping for another one of your informative, free seminars.”
So, just take a moment to grab one of those file folders you have around the house, or use a pocket folder that your child used three years ago, but would NEVER use again, and start putting things in there that make you smile. You’d be surprised how full it gets. Print off some of those emails that someone sends you that makes you smile.
Then, the next time something (or someone) makes you feel like crap, grab that folder, your favorite beverage, and prepare to transform your mood!